There are a lot of emotions that are connected to caring for someone, especially when it is a loved one. Guilt, same, stress from work or other family members, and the uncertainty to make the right choices. People are human, as so I am told, and humans have emotions that are wrapped up with the people that care about and especially those that they love. Caregivers have a unique task, to care about someone and to give them that care even if they know that the toll of life will soon take that person from the earth. I have read that more often than not, that the caregiver is stressed.
I have done this task myself, and before I started my business, I took on this role for my family. It was hard, because although I cared for loved ones, it still did not mean that I could stop time. I could not stop the diseases and the conditions that time brought along with it. I could only give what I had. But I would look in the mirror and ask myself, “Can I do more to bring comfort?” The answer was no. I did what I could, when I could. That’s the best that anyone can ask, right? Families daily trust us to provide an extension of their care. I take this responsibility very serious. Knowing that often times families need a break.
But again, I speak of a unique role, the one of caregiver. Now I manage a group of caregivers, and I am faced daily with this daunting task. I pride myself on surrounding my company with caring and compassionate people. People that care, have emotion and the relate to those around them. Sometimes they go above and beyond, yet I know that they still feel like they can do more.
When one of my caregivers face a loss, I consult with them. I first review all of the issues surrounding the loss, and then I review the well-being of the caregiver. I consider their needs and whatever they may need to bring them comfort. I am committed to giving the best attention to my clients and I have to also given that same attention to my employees. Confronting guilt for over twenty years, I would think that it would be easier for me, but it isn’t. I care. That’s why I started my business in the first place.
When I look at caregiver guilt, I know that it can take a toll. If one of my caregivers needs more than time and needs to speak to someone about their feelings, I provide that service to them as well. I set a series of protocols to assist them through any transition time that is needed. This may involve counseling or mentoring that caregiver to assist their recovery back into the workforce.
As I stated, a caregiver is only human. I know that we all recover differently from any sense of loss. I have to manage a group of individuals that cope with this on a daily basis. I do what I can, because all I have to say to them is that they are not alone. I know they are not. As a caregiver, I know that we do all that we can, and that is all that I ask of my people. I have setup a system to help them manage it. My business is to care for people. I like to think that I start with how I take care of the people inside of my organization first. The result ensures that they are focused, and ready to handle the stress that comes along with the guilt.