Caregiver serving breakfast

 

There are a lot of emotions that are connected to caring for someone, especially when it is a loved one.  Guilt, same, stress from work or other family members, and the uncertainty  to make the right choices.  People are human, as so I am told, and humans have emotions that are wrapped up with the people that care about and especially those that they love.  Caregivers have a unique task, to care about someone and to give them that care even if they know that the toll of life will soon take that person from the earth.  I have read that more often than not, that the caregiver is stressed.

I have done this task myself, and before I started my business, I took on this role for my family.  It was hard, because although I cared for loved ones, it still did not mean that I could stop time.  I could not stop the diseases and the conditions that time brought along with it.  I could only give what I had.  But I would look in the mirror and ask myself, “Can I do more to bring comfort?”  The  answer was no.  I did what I could, when I could.  That’s the best that anyone can ask, right? Families daily trust us to provide an extension of their care. I take this responsibility very serious. Knowing that often times families need a break.

But again, I speak of a unique role, the one of caregiver.  Now I manage a group of caregivers, and I am faced daily with this daunting task.  I pride myself on surrounding my company with caring and compassionate people.  People that care, have emotion and the relate to those around them.  Sometimes they go above and beyond, yet I know that they still feel like they can do more.

When one of my caregivers face a loss, I consult with them.  I first review all of the issues surrounding the loss, and then I review the well-being of the caregiver.  I consider their needs and whatever they may need to bring them comfort. I am committed to giving the best attention to my clients and I have to also given that same attention to my employees.  Confronting guilt for over twenty years, I would think that it would be easier for me, but it isn’t.  I care.  That’s why I started my business in the first place.

When I look at caregiver guilt, I know that it can take a toll.  If one of my caregivers needs more than time and needs to speak to someone about their feelings, I provide that service to them as well.  I set a series of protocols to assist them through any transition time that is needed.  This may involve counseling or mentoring that caregiver to assist their recovery back into the workforce.

As I stated, a caregiver is only human.  I know that we all recover differently from any sense of loss.  I have to manage a group of individuals that cope with this on a daily basis.  I do what I can, because all I have to say to them is that they are not alone.  I know they are not.  As a caregiver, I know that we do all that we can, and that is all that I ask of my people.  I have setup a system to help them manage it.  My business is to care for people.  I like to think that I start with how I take care of the people inside of my organization first.  The result ensures that they are focused, and ready to handle the stress that comes along with the guilt.